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15. Inheritance and Upbringing - What are our Children Dependent on?

The fact that I have also examined and advised numerous children has taught me many things. Why do children have runny noses? Why do they get nervous tics?

Case 14

A family came to me with their 10-year-old daughter because she had been clearing her throat very noticeably for four years. Neither the removal of adenoids nor psychological care or alternative practices had helped. The child was now in third grade and was clearing her throat every two to three minutes. Her classmates laughed about it all the time.

In the case of nervous tics, the cause is a specific lack of love, namely a lack of security. A child needs 100% security. Where does the child get this security from? From the parents. After I had an intensive conversation with the parents, the throat-clearing disappeared three days later. How was that possible? It's because our illnesses are nothing more than a sign of something. When the child's spirit realized that its signal that it lacked security had been received and the spirit evaluated this problem as solved, it was able to stop the throat clearing and the illness was resolved.

How does a child function? First of all, something about its development: the child is formed from two gametes. One comes from the mother and the other from the father. These cells meet in a cavity, the fallopian tube. Strictly speaking, this does not happen in the mother's body, but on it. The two gametes with half a set of chromosomes each fuse together. Because cells cannot do anything on their own, there must also be a spirit associated with them, although this spirit cannot be seen. Half of the child is created from the genetic information of the mother and the other half from that of the father. This applies to the cells on a physical level and to the spirit of the child on a spiritual level. The spirit of the child is formed half from the spirit of the father and half from the spirit of the mother.

The fused cell starts to grow, begins to divide and moves into the uterus. Who attaches to whom? According to the law of nature, it is always the one who needs something who attaches to someone else. Consequently, it is the developing child that attaches itself to the mother. Via the umbilical cord and the placenta, which are parts of the child's body, the child attaches itself to the mother's uterus in order to nourish itself, i.e. in order to take. The physical umbilical cord concerns chemistry, the means of nourishment. The child is 100% dependent on the mother's body. Does it have a choice to choose the body? No, of course it doesn't have a choice. What about the mother? Is the mother independent or does she also have to take from somewhere? The mother's source for fulfilling her need is nature. The mother eats what nature provides and the child takes from the mother. If the mother drinks alcohol, the child also gets drunk. Since the mother is the only possible source of the child, she should be careful not to take in anything that can harm her child.

What about the child's spiritual attachment? Bonding is just as essential on a spiritual level as it is on a physical level. From the moment of conception, the child's spirit attaches itself to the mother's spirit, even before the embryo enters the womb. The child's spirit has no choice in the matter. It must take, it must trust. Only then is the child's spirit able to give in turn. The spirit must set in motion and control the electrical current that the embryo needs to live and grow. The child's spirit takes from the mother's spirit via a kind of spiritual umbilical cord and assembles the little body in the first three months. After this construction phase, the child continues to grow for a long time, but does not change structurally.

The spirit controls the development and growth of the child in all processes. If the mother experiences too much stress - in the form of unfree thoughts - then the child's spirit does not fully assemble the body correctly. Individual body parts or vascular connections may then be missing. Therefore, the expectant mother should not only know what she should eat and drink correctly, but also how and what she should think. Who controls the mother's thoughts? Is there also a source from which she takes her needs? Surely, she must also trust someone. Does she trust her husband or does she trust her own parents?

Most people remain attached to their mother for their whole lives. An elderly patient said to me with great anger: "My husband is now 70 years old; his mother is over 90 years old and he still listens to her!" Because of their continuing attachment, many dying people say in their last moments that they are now going to their mother.

What happens to the child in the womb? In general, the source must always be larger than the person who needs something. As long as the mother's body is large enough to fully nourish the child, the mother is sufficient. After 9 months in the womb, however, this is no longer the case and the child is born. From this point onwards, it binds itself to additional sources of need. Breastfeeding the baby has its time and then the child feeds less or not at all from the mother's body. From birth, the child breathes on its own.

What is the dependency on the spiritual level? Why did the girl in case 14 have a nervous clearing of the throat? Is the trigger to be found in the child or in the mother? The child has no choice. It expresses a spiritual deficiency through its tic. It is spiritually bound to the mother and takes from her. This bond can be demonstrated experimentally. You can't see the spirit, but you can measure the electrical current it triggers. If the brain waves of the mother and child are measured simultaneously, the child's dependency becomes apparent.1 Whenever the mother changes her current, the child follows within a very short time and also changes its current. The relationship between the mother's brain waves and those of the child can be observed over a certain distance. However, if the distance becomes too great, the spiritual umbilical cord is interrupted, so to speak.

How long should the child maintain its spiritual umbilical cord to its mother? After birth, the child is of course not a mature human being. How the mother is doing is crucial for its development and health in its first years. This is why mother and child should not be separated from each other for the first seven years. Everywhere in the animal world - at least in mammals - mother and offspring stay together for a certain period of time; in bears, for example, it is three years. Only rational humans sometimes give their own child away after just a few weeks, unaware of the damage they are doing to the child.

On a spiritual level, the premature separation of the child from the mother can be compared to taking a fish out of the water. Many illnesses, even if they only appear much later, have their origins in childhood. I can say this from many observations. The distress of my patients often comes from this early phase of life because people have not understood what needs a child has. I don't want to make mothers who are or were unaware of this feel guilty. Nevertheless, I want to describe things as they actually are, because it is important for everyone to understand.

Then, at some point, the time comes when the child should no longer be spiritually attached to the mother. The child must one day change its source of need, because the mother is no longer sufficient as a source. But if the mother does not understand for herself that her husband or other people are not the right source of need for her spirit, how can her child understand? Only when the Creator takes the place of people as a source of need will the spiritual needs be fulfilled in the right way. Ideally, the child should be spiritually attached to God by the age of 12. It should only take spiritually from God and no longer be spiritually dependent on its mother or other people. If the child were completely bound to God from this point onwards, it would be completely spiritually independent of humans. Wouldn't that be fantastic? The mother would have done everything right and could set the child free.

But when we look around, we notice exactly the opposite. Most mothers cannot let go of their children. Mothers are often very "dear" mothers. When the child gets married, some would prefer to move into a little room next to the bedroom of the newly married couple.

Fascinatingly, I found that ultimately everyone always tells the same story. Because everything they experience leads back to the same cause, the false identity. So, the child also behaves according to its innate false identity "I am God". It also attaches itself to other people besides its mother, such as its father, grandparents, siblings or friends. It binds itself in all relationships for one purpose only, namely to take. It absorbs all things like a sponge. At the same time, it remains firmly in the misconception that other people must love it.

The child demands to be loved. Children expect their parents to love them. Illnesses occur because this need is not or not fully met. Most of all, the child expects love from the mother and father, but also from grandma or other caregivers. If the child grows up as a Christian, God is often added to this, from whom the child also demands love. This demand from others is based on the fact that you yourself are God in the first place. When I heard the life stories of many people, I realized that ultimately everyone thinks the same way and that everyone sees themselves as higher than their fellow human beings.

One question remains unanswered: Why do we all have the same false identity? To clarify this question, I would like to look at the law of inheritance. Everything we are is undoubtedly inherited. Where does "life" come from and where do all people on earth come from? New life can only arise from existing life. Since we are alive, we can only descend from something living. Of course, this also applies to our parents, grandparents, etc. Where do all humans come from? We are one species; we all have the same structure. The functions and basic needs of all humans are identical. In addition, we have the spiritual commonality already described: we are all subject to the same misconception of a false identity.

There are over 8 billion people living on the planet today. Where is the origin if we go back generations?

  1. Turk, E., Vroomen, J., Fonken, Y., Levy, J., van den Heuvel, M. (2022): In sync with your child: The potential of parent-child electroencephalography in developmental research. Wiley. Developmental Psychobiology, Special Issue, 1-16. ↩